November 1, 2014

A two year old tries to understand death

Liana has been commenting recently on Lev's death, and obviously trying to understand it.
The other morning at breakfast she said, "Lev died. Mommy cried."
Tony added, "Daddy cried too. He still does sometimes."
Liana replied, "Yeah. Lani not sad."
I explained, "That's okay. You don't need to be sad. You didn't know Lev."
She said, "Jaal sad. Jaal try to bring Lev back." "Jaal try."
And she gave a big, sad frown.

A couple days later the same conversation was repeated.
But, she added that Lev was at home.
I asked her, "What home, where?" and she couldn't answer, so she went back to the he died conversation.

She said, "Like the shrimp."
Every night hundreds of land shrimp spend their last hours on our doorstep.
"And we put them in the grass," noted Liana.

At that point I didn't feel it appropriate to explain cremation or burial, but she has seen many dead birds and bugs.

Liana is also trying to figure out if we were cows, who in our family would be a cow and who would be a bull.
"Melinda is a cow. Jaal is a bull."
It's interesting, and sometimes heart breaking to see her mind at work.

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