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Three years: We miss you Lev!

Thanks to all Lev's friends and family for remembering Lev and keeping in touch. With his Facebook page and other grief blog I'm not sure where to post different things, but here is a story I wrote for Liana, to help her understand. Somehow we have made it three years, which seems an accomplishment in and of itself. It hurts and sometimes I'm not sure how we do it, but we do and Liana and Jaal continue to make us happy.

You had another brother. His name was Lev. He would have loved you so much, but he didn’t live long enough to get to know you. 

He was funny and loved to joke around. 

He loved exploring outside and playing imaginary games. He imagined whole worlds with his friends. 

But, one day he got sick. He was so sick his body couldn’t live any more. He died and will be gone forever.

His brother, mother and father missed him soooo much.  They didn’t know what to do. 

They still think about him every day. They were very sad, but their lives continued on without him. They ate, they slept, they worked, and they went on walks. Lev’s brother went to school and learned and made new friends, but he still missed his brother. 

Sometimes they laughed and sometimes they cried. 

Then, one day they decided that they would like to have another baby. Babies are full of love, and they could give a baby all the extra love they held inside. 

So, many months later they had you, and you were a happy baby. You smiled a lot and made them smile. They never forgot about Lev, and they still missed him, but you made them happier and they loved doing things with you.